To fit in… or stand aside


by Vasile Onica

        Bob Dylan once said: “You’re going to die. You’re going to be dead. It could be 20 years, it could be tomorrow, anytime. So am I. I mean, we’re just going to be gone. The world’s going to go on without us. All right now. You do your job in the face of that, and how seriously you take yourself you decide for yourself  ” .

The society nowadays is ruled by certain ethos, and everyone that stands aside of those ethos, usually become pariahs. We see how the society keeps judging  rockers, gay marriage and some ideas. The world is superficial, it`s all about the aspect and the way you blend with those ideas, the way you fit in the community. Let`s think about bullies, society created them, maybe the familial environment had a little to do with it, but society created a certain pattern we all have to mould around. If you are fat, weak and you show your emotions, you are judged and bullied. Some ideas tend to shock the world, and are not well-received. Let`s think about Martin Luther King Jr., he said : “I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character. “ (1963, March on Washington). For these ideas he was assassinated, but the ideas are bulletproof, that’s why his “dream” became true and it is still on-going in our days. The black community are no longer discriminated by the other communities, and even more they have mileage, the incumbent U.S President since 2008 is a black man, Barrack Obama, thing that strengthens the ideas above.

“Life is like a game of tetris, if you fit in you disappear”(anon.), this is the quote that has ruled my life, I don`t want to be like the others, we all are unique, the difference makes us who we are. If you want to be well-known forget the pattern, create your own. We can`t change the world if we stay on the matrix, nothing will change. Think about all the inventions and all the theories that changed the world, if those men fitted in, we would still be in the medieval age, if not in the stone age.

I want to change the world, I don’t like what I see around me. People think that they are perfect and they think they are in the position to criticize the others. Don`t criticize the aspects, go for the knowledge, but don’t be too cruel, just be a reminder of the importance of information in the pursuit of notoriety and bringing the world in the point of making it better. We are the same, but we want the world changed, although we criticize the ones who are trying to change it, and we are making them give up.

I`ll end with a quote from a well-known character “If nobody hates you, you are doing something wrong.”(Dr. Gregory House, Fox Broadcasting Company`s House M.D.). If you are an outcast, you are on the right way.

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By Vasile Onica

            In the common belief, a physical world means something that can be seen and measured: length, width, height and time. In order to make sense of what surrounds us, mankind has started a journey to believe in everything that can be measured and/or sensed disregarding everything else and considering it non-physical. The physical world can be bluntly described as moving from one place to another, home to school or work, meeting friends, travelling and any other activity that is confined to a measurable system.

The linear distance we move between two points; we call it length. Since the beginning of time we wanted to leave the earth behind and move towards the sky; the distance between where our feet lies and the furthest point looking up, we call it height. Moving around in the world we noticed that things are not linear and beginning to understand them, we found a new dimension that completes the first two: width. With these we created a mathematical understanding of the surrounding that we called 3D (three dimensional). Then, the more we spend within those 3 dimensions, the more we came to notice the changes that an additional force made to ourselves; and that we called time. The above is something that one would define as a physical world.

Then we stumbled into things that we could not explain and made us wonder: Why do we believe in God if no one has ever seen him? Why do we believe in Love, if it is something that we cannot pin-point to a specific trigger? How do we measure Faith, how do we measure Love, how do we measure a Bond, how do we measure any feeling in this world? It makes us wonder that even if it is not something that can be measured, does it make it less physical?

My physical world resumes not only to what I can see with my eyes and understand with my mind, but also to things that science testified to be real yet nobody has ever seen them. No one should give in to the frame of mind others have set out and create their own physical world, even if others believe that they are crazy. I DO believe in aliens, even if we have not been ensured of their existence. But I find it unbelievable that in this perfect and homogeneous universe we are alone, in billions of stars, planets and galaxies, yet some believe we are unique. We may be unique but we will never be alone. We should start thinking outside the box. We should stop going mainstream, we should step out of the drawn square we are living in and create our new unlimited physical coordinates of our world. Is sky the limit? Before the last century we thought it was. Now, imagination is the new limit. What are we without imagination, dreams and hope? We are driven by these things; without them how do we differentiate ourselves from other species?

I don’t understand why the people always have judged others for their sexual orientation, race, religion, color. Please, get your head out of your box; don’t remain confined in the limits of your country, culture and traditions, take a look at the other worlds, how they are treating the others that are different from them. The world is in a continuous evolution, the geographical coordinates can change every minute, it just needs a little bump from the right forces. Global warming, tsunamis, hurricanes, territories can appear and disappear, just like mentalities and “boxes”. We refuse to be ants that cannot pass the line drawn up by a superior intelligence, we should embrace the fear of the unknown and only then we can eventually find our true North.

Now, prove me wrong!

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The Two Wolves


by Vasile Onica

          The commencement of one`s inner world is when that person realizes what his mind is capable of, what he feels, what are his dreams, hopes, simply when he understands his mind and his inner self and then starts to build up his character that is tied up to that inner world.

Van Gogh once said: “So what do you want? Does what happens inside show on the outside? There is such a great fire in one’s soul, and yet nobody ever comes to warm themselves there, and passersby see nothing but a little smoke coming from the top of the chimney, and go on their way.”  (The letters of Vincent Van Gogh). Some of us know what we want, we want to be happy, loved and live a fulfilling life. But, somehow, the series of events in our lives, the failures in our plans and love and the effect that some people had on us compels each and every one to build walls, so high, that no one could ever see what is beyond them. We create a stronghold inside us, and we are retreating there in our hardest moments, the unhealthy fact is that the stronghold reminds us of bad things that happened at a certain point, and that’s bad. As Van Gogh said, we should seize the walls and bring them to the ground and we should create and embrace the fire within us, our inner world should be a warm place. We should stop chasing after people that can make us happy. Sometimes we are our reasons of happiness, we are the best advisers, when the times are cold we don’t need to warm up in one`s arms, we can go in ourselves, sit beside the fire and tell stories of our best moments and then go out in the real world with a smile on our face, and healed, and passersby won`t see only a little smoke on the top, they will also feel the warmth that`s coming from inside you.

Who are we when no one is looking? That depends on everyone, in the real world some of us tend to change just to blend in a certain group, we shape-shift to match the surroundings. We are all animals at origins but we limit our urges to comply to society rules. The only place where we are truly free is when we close our eyes and free ourselves from the mandated society chains, but when we open the eyes we feel responsible to carry out a good deal of purposes that makes us humans. Our negative thoughts can create anxiety, depression, resentment- an array of emotions. This kind of thinking can lead to addictions and destroy our self-confidence. Many think that emotions come and go quickly without us noticing them, but with awareness and an attitude of self-compassion we can redirect these thoughts into more positive ones. I would like to present you and old Cherokee Indian legend about two wolves: An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life. The child said that a fight is going on inside him. The old answered that it is a terrible fight between two wolves. One is evil- he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority and ego. The other is good- he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith. This fight is going on inside every person. The child, confused, asked which one will win, then, the old Cherokee simply answered “The one you feed”. Our thoughts can be our own worst enemy. That is, if we let them. Think about how you may be “feeding” your negative thoughts by allowing them to rule your mind. Next time you have a negative thought, catch it and ask yourself, “What is this thought doing for me?” You will find that the answer is that all they are doing is dis-empowering you. You can immediately feel more empowered by focusing on something good in your life and cultivate the practice of gratitude.

All of us has dreams, perfect life, perfect house, perfect car, but we are not motivated enough to keep chasing them because perfection can never be achieved. We should stop dreaming about perfection and start chasing the dreams of being happy because what makes us happy is not perfection, but knowing that in our own demise we learn that what make us unique are our own faults. Don’t give up on your dreams, carry on your way and when you get to the end of the road, you will get your reward. Be a better person, feed the right wolf, chase your dreams and you will achieve happiness.

Live your dreams, achieve them, make new ones, set up new goals, raise your walls so that no one can take a peek but make sure you build a gate so that when time is right you receive the payment and open it wide for people to enter and cherish your amazing inner world: unique and beautiful in its own way.

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